This is the day I have not been looking forward to as a mother because we all know what can happen when you become a “woman”. Due to my daughter’s age of 10 ½, you can totally understand my concerns, that it’s just too early! On the contrary, it’s when she is supposed to get it, according to our family physician. They have been prepping me for this day for the last two years and with the intuition from the grandma’s who just knew it was coming. This just added more emotions, I could not account for. But what about my daughter, Jada? She has been afraid of what she calls, “The Blood” and what she sees that this momentous occasion she feels like, that she is about to die. The day my daughter got her period was totally unexpected. That morning was like any morning but when it happened everything changed it was confusing, exciting and scary all at once. She was no longer my little girl but growing into a young lady. But I was very happy she was able to be in my presence that I can speak to her before sending her out to the world!
Like many families, they have traditions to support this momentous occasion. We have been part of tea parties, and mental health days for some of her older friends, which can highlight mom and daughter time. But what I did was use this time to celebrate my daughter and made the experience totally about her. I wanted my daughter to learn that just because her period was in town, does not mean your life just stops! But as a mother, it’s your duty to educate her on what to do and what not to do!
Being prepared is Key! With the idea that her period could come at any given moment and with concerns of her not being ready, I went out to my local Target, because I have seen pads and items specifically for young girls there. I took her along with me to see the experience of getting and picking her protection such as pads, tampons, and liners. Hey, I could have done like my mom did, and just use what I have in my cabinet, but my needs are different when it comes to my period. But thank goodness for all the options today because so much has changed from over 26 years ago.
Be open! You will want to tell her everything because if not she is going to ask Google or anyone willing to give her bad advice. Tell her the good, bad and the ugly. You don’t want her to ask anyone other than you for the truth! Better you than a stranger!
Teach her good habits! Tell her Bathing is a must!!! Why is it that you have to drag your child or yell and scream like a crazy person to make a point to bathe? Well, when Aunt Flow comes to town this will change. Explain the proper disposal techniques such as keeping brown paper bags to keep the trash cans a bit cleaner and having wipes to help with cleaning of her lady parts!
Start the conversation. Your daughter getting her period for the first time is so overwhelming as it is for you as for her. Is this the appropriate time for, “The Talk”? Well for me I just couldn’t do it. I used this moment to explain the need to know things with mentioning the importance of having her period.
This moment in time is going to be just as overwhelming for you as it is for your daughter… but remember this is about her and not you! If conversation not easy for you use items like videos or books to help start the conversation but don’t make it absolute truth. Just remember to use this scary moment to be a better mother and friend to your little girl!
Bernadette (The Mommy Cooler)